Abusive Spouse
Today’s society, unlike in the past, is becoming more and more aware of spouse abuse. An abusive spouse can be of either gender, male or female although most often than never it is the men who are the abuser and the women who are the abused. The behavior of an abusive spouse is very different in a relationship and he/she would normally be a very difficult individual to classify, however more commonly they display both emotional and physical abuse. Verbal ridicule, debasing their partner and disregard are types of emotional abuse while physical abuse involves physical violence, threats, slapping, shoving and physical assault.
Some may wonder the cause that makes an abusive spouse to display such behavior. Well, they are prompted by feelings of insecurity and impotence providing them with a false sense of control which amplifies their ego. This would result in jealousy or unhealthy possessiveness towards the other partner which would also seem rather as an unintentional act of love.Normal marital disagreements differ greatly from intense verbal, emotional and physical abuse that some victims may regard as a marital duty.A fair amount of verbal conflict is unavoidable in marriage life, nonetheless a marital conflict should not cross certain limits.
A husband and wife isexpected to care, love and respect each other. Treating their partner like a slave and carrying all the weight in a relationship shouldn’t be accepted; neither should repression and cruelty in a marriage. Recognizing the matter in an abusive spouse is the first step to being aware in the relationship.Disregarding the beliefs and intuition of an abusive spouse will only damage yourself. Realizing why and how you have allowed your spouse to verbally and emotionally abuse you and have it take control of your relationship. Consider the reasoning behind your surrender to such unjustifiable treatment.
In addition, family and children may also be adversely affected by an abusive spouse. People living with an abusive spouse tend to be secluded from their friends and family and generally keep to themselves because of their controlling spouses.Children who live in a family with an abusive spouse tend to have problems in academics, behavior, feelings of depression, fear, guilt aggression and irritability. There is a high tendency in children ,even the ones who were not abused themselves by the abusive spouse, to commit violent crimes and engage in antisocial behavior in the future.
Leaving an abusive relationship is the best thing to do for the betterment of your family and children.
