Someone Tell Me How to Get my Ex-girlfriend Back

Someone Tell Me How to Get my Ex-girlfriend Back

 

That’s what I wanted to know and I wanted to know it desperately. I felt absolutely lousy without her. We have been together for nearly 6 years and now its all over. To say that I could hardly believe it is an understatement. For the first seven days of our breakup I was completely lost. I was in a daze when I spoke to one of my buddies. “Forget her,” he said, “Life’s like that…these things happen,” was his philosophical reply. Sure, easy for HIM to say.

Then another friend of mine blurted out “Seriously, are you just going to put up with this like some sort of whimp? Do something, get her back…go hook up with someone else and make her jealous…let her see what she’s missing. That’ll do the job.” No offence to him but I am not the champion stud who draws women like a magnet. I’m a little too timid to give these things a try. Well, that put paid to his suggestion.

 

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After a few more well-intentioned but totally misplaced comments from more buddies, one of my closest friends said something that I shocked me at first because it was completely unexpected. He said, “Go along with the breakup.” You could have knocked me over with a feather. Here I was asking how to get her back and he was telling me to go along with the idea of breaking up. I would have walked out of our conversation if he did not say the next thing he said, “If you don’t agree with her about the breakup, you will never win her back.” That got me all ears.

Then he ran through a point by point strategy for me to follow.

The first step was to do something about myself, not just call her to make up (which was what I desperately wanted to do). I still remember the afternoon my friend and I enrolled as members of a gym. It cost me a bomb since the package included a once-a-week workout with a personal trainer. So that started my routine of pumping iron, jogging, stretching, sweating (lots of it) for the following 6 weeks. The first week or so was torture. The only thing that kept me fulfilling that crazy program were my buddies words echoing in my head, “You want her back, don’t you?”

Surprisingly to me, the regime got easier as the weeks passed. After 6 agonizing weeks, I was feeling great! Losing 17 pounds had a lot to do with that, too. But working out wasn’t the only thing that my friend did with me those 6 weeks.

He took me through a painstaking journey of self-evaluation. We talked, he questioned, I answered, I asked, he advised. He became my sounding board for all the faults I had in my life. Quite often i did not like what I was hearing. But as they say, good medicine always tastes bitter. Lastly I understood just what type of man I was and knew what I had done wrong in our relationship. Of course, not everything that went wrong was my fault, but this was not about her; it was about me.

So I made it a point to change. It wasn’t easy but after weeks of doing things differently, it became a habit. I quit smoking and dumped all my girlie magazines in the trash. I started to be more generous and less fussy. I began to like kids, something that I never did before. All in all, after about 6 weeks, I had changed both internally and externally.

Now came the challenge of meeting with my ex-girlfriend. I was really grateful that i had a friend who was there to give me encouragement and a helping hand. He was having a birthday party for his young child. So he invited both my ex and myself. Before the party, he told me exactly what to do and what not to. He did not have to repeat himself once, as i was completely focused on what he was saying.

We were all there when the party began. I said hello to my ex-girlfriend and she gave me a radiant smile. I could see she was really suprised to see the new sculpted me. The program went smoothly and I stuck to the game plan like glue. The main thing my friend told me to do was, “Play with the kids…treat them gently…have fun with them.” So I did. I am sure i have done just about everything Barny the purple dinosaur does with kids.

It must have worked because the next day, my ex calls me and we chatted. She told me how surprised she was to see my new fondness with children. I was ecstatic!

To cut a long story short, I’m happy to say that 5 months and many more meetings after that, my girlfriend and I are back together again.

 

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If you have just gone through a breakup, I hope you will be encouraged by my story. Maybe you can see yourself in it, also and do something to get your ex-girlfriend back.