Ways to get Your Ex Back

Ways to get Your Ex Back

 

If you have just broken off with your ex and you want him or her back, I’ve got good news and bad news. The bad news is there is just no fixed formula for how to do it. But the good news is there are certain fixed principles that when applied work like a charm every time. So what are these principles and how do you apply them?

Firstly, there is the idea of wanting what you cannot have. It is in our nature to want what another person has that you do not. For this very reason, you should distance yourself from your ex. This allows him or her to look at you from afar and in a new way. But what you must do is to change. You should look to improve yourself in the areas where you perceive yourself to be week, paying close attention to those areas that you think were responsible for your break up. Concentrate on trying to be the very best person that you can be. Also take the opportunity to make some new friends and catch up with friends you have not been in touch with for some time. The purpose is to enable your ex to see the improved version of you having many friends who find you friendly, fun to be with and attractive. This is not to make your ex jealous but simply to improve yourself so that you feel better about yourself.

 

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Secondly comes the principle of meeting emotional needs. One of the singly most important things that keep a couple united is being able to complete each other’s emotional needs. Obviously, the emotional needs of both sexes are for the most part entirely at odds with each other and each person’s emotional needs is unique but on the whole I will tell you about the primary emotional need of both sexes. This is tue, no matter what kind of man or woman your ex is.

The primary emotional need of a man is respect. Respect entails honor, admiration, esteem, being looked up to etc. So if you want to get your ex back, you must show that you are the woman who can meet his emotional needs especially for respect the way that no other woman can. You should never try to make him look bad or even put him down in public. You should the occasion was to complement him, congratulate him, encourage him and sing his praises especially in public. This will endear him back to you. It works like gangbusters, believe me.

As a man you should know that, the most important emotional requirement for a woman is security. Security involves love, protection, relationship, companionship, being there for her etc. To win your ex back, you need to find ways to make her secure. You should always reassure her of your love (after you win her back, that is), show her that you are strong especially when under pressure, honor your commitments to her, do things for her (especially those she finds difficult or inconvenient to do) and spend quality time with her. This is what will draw your ex-girlfriend back to you.

So after you have made some changes to yourself, you can plan how to meet up with your ex. Find an opportune time when you know he or she would be most receptive. Just ask your ex for a no presure meeting, maybe for a coffee, a snack or maybe even a drink after work. If there is a special event going on, you can invite your ex to join you. It will probably be better to try and go out as a group. The idea here is to allow your ex to see the ‘new’ improved you and to have a really great time with you. Do this a couple of times, but do try to ensure that it comes off as being natural. Do not pressure your ex into anything. Whenever you are together, intentionally find ways to meet your ex’s primary emotional need. Do so as often as possible. Soon your ex will notice the changes in you and will be touched by your actions to meet his or her emotional needs. This will put your relationship on track to be restored. If you follow the right strategy, before you can blink your ex will be back in your arms.

 

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