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I've been married to a good-looking womanizer for more than twelve years and we have an eleven-year old daughter. My husband had several women in the past but now he seems to be getting more involved this time. He brought home this Chinese girl while my daughter and I were on a 5-week vacation to my parents' home.
This girl left the kitchen dirty. I also found broken wineglasses, empty bottles of wine, spices and herbs in the kitchen, a toothbrush in the bathroom, disinfectant, a negative result of a pregnancy test kit, and unused feminine napkins.
My husband sent her home the day before we arrived but they were too careless not to tidy the apartment. I also found three kissmarks on his chest.
I still love my husband. I want to keep him and save our marriage. I want to protect my daughter from the truth but he has drained me of all emotions. How can I keep going? How can I stop them in this forbidden relationship? How can I keep a man who doesn't know the word "change"? I am hurt..

Once a cheat always a cheat. You should love yourself and your daughter more to realize you deserve better than that.
-NmD!

I wanted to know whats the best tips to improve a marriage with? I found a good blog with a guide at http://www.helpsavemarriagenow.blogspot.com but really wanted some inside tips from people who have had a failed marriage go well. Thanks

Wow where to begin….
You gotta work at it. Try to talk not fight about the things that are really important. Don't sweat the small stuff. When talking about things that bother you get specific. Don't be general and says things like you never listen to me. Instead get specific about what was not heard. Avoid the words "always, never, etc. Because no body really always or never does anything. Recognize each other when you do good things. Lots of thank yous go along way. A friend of mine told me that when on car trips they tell each other the things they did during the week that they liked. Believe me things like putting the cap on the tooth paste, taking out the trash etc are small. Just let it go. You have pick your battles carefully. It is ok to agree to disagree. Be sure to recognize when you have done wrong and apologize. And most important of all don't forget the 3 little words that mean so much, I love you.