There are several things you can do to better deal with the period that follows a breakup. There’s no point in blaming yourself for a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend. It sometimes happens that you may feel responsible for the cheater’s behavior, but infidelity has hardly any explanation. Family and friends should support you at such times, as they are usually less subjective, and may help you get over the feeling of self-guilt.

There may be a time when you feel inclined to forgive a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend. This is not a rare occurrence. And it’s fine as long as you evaluate your emotions in relation with the other’s behavior. On such occasions it is most important to put the past behind if you decide to give your lover another chance. Make the other aware of how you feel and discuss the entire context. Being open about your relationship will normally help because it is a part of the healing process.

Manipulation is one other problem you could be facing. A cheating boyfriend or girlfriend could often talk you into forgiving him/her by promising not to ever behaving like that. Even so, you are the only one to tell how solid your relationship really is. It all depends on whether you believe that the cheating episode is a one time event or not. If you give serious thinking to this question, you should be able to make a decision.

In case you decide to move on with your life, then put everything behind you and resume a normal life. Let go of your negative feelings and move on. Grieving on the infidelity will cause you lots of troubles in the future. After a certain period of time, you should be able to carry on with your life at a different level.